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Lonesome

I ended a 3 year relationship in March of this year. I have been on antidepressants and in therapy. I still feel quite depressed. I have met people, but they turn out flakey. They don't call or cancel dates which just perpetuates the depression. I don't look forward to the evenings or weekends because I feel so alone. I feel when I reach out to people there is this big risk of getting hurt all over again. I don't feel suicidal, just really down. I have started to read Mars & Venus, but that reminds me of just how hopeless relationships can be, and I'm only 32. I have decided not to contact my ex because that gets me down as well. I tried to be friends, but I need more time to heal. It does bother me though that he doesn't feel affected by this in the least. In fact when I told him I was moving out, his response was well you gotta do what you gotta do. He seems fine with everything which really hurts. So, I know just get on and stay busy right? Well there are only so many times I can exercise and go shopping. I don't have many friends as it is either. And the ones I do have are caught up with their mates.

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Reader Comments

Helpful - Kendra - Jun 13th 2014

Mr. Dombeck,

I appreciate you putting this online. I have recently been researching what field I'm plunging into and you have given me clarity and confirmation about the western field I'm playing on. 

With gratitude,

Kendra

Things to consider. - Brittany N. P. - Jun 7th 2011

After reading this overview of the mental health profession, I am still quite torn.  Since I was about 10 years old I have been telling my parents i'm going to major in cognition and neurology, a large acheivment in relation to my family.  I want to help people, and one of my professional goals is to atleast dive into chemical dependancy, or other addictive personalities.  Cureing one chemical dependancy with another chemical seems ironic i'm sure, but it is my goal. My problem now becomes how do I reach this goal? I have included my email if you have any advice on this field. 

Thanks-

Brittany P.

Other mental health professionals - Craig - Sep 9th 2009

Good overview. Don't forget marriage and family therapists and licensed professional counselors, though. Perhaps you lumped these two categories of mental health professionals in your MA level category, but I think it's important to spell it out. There are more MA level clinicians out there than just the licensed clinical social worker (LCSW).

As a marriage and family therapist (MFT) myself, I can't speak for licensed professional counselors, but the opportunities for MFTs are growing rapidly- at least in California. MFTs are quickly being recognized as being on the same level as LCSWs. This trend is likely to continue as the barriers and misunderstandings regarding what MFTs do is diminishing.

The LCSW degree is still more marketable, but in just the past 4 or 5 years, the difference in marketability has shrunk considerably. I work with a county mental health agency in California. MFTs and LCSWs have idential job descriptions-and we’re on the same pay scale. Many other county, state. federal, and privite non-profit agencies are following suit.

Thanks - lucas - Mar 29th 2009

Thankyou very much for this write up it was very informative and helped me clear up a lot of indecisiveness towards a career in the mental health field. Hopefully one day people will have a good understanding of themselves without the extra need for such things maybe someday in a utopia not far from here haha thanks again.

Lucas 

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