My wife is diagnosed bipolar 2. We have been married for just over a year after three years of living together and have been close for about ten years. Recently, her medication has changed, much for the better, she is a much more stable, more energetic person now. She has, however, decided that she no longer wants to be married. Of course there are some underlying problems, not the least of which is that she has begun an affair with another man. We have started marriage counseling, but I believe that she has associated me with the years of depression that we have toiled through and already decided to leave me. Is this a common scenario among bipolar sufferers and if so, what are the typical outcomes. I welcome any information.
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DBT in Colombia - Anna Maria Vestin - Jan 22nd 2011
I am an expert in Colombia on Borderline personality disorder. Soy psicologa experta en trastornos limites de personalidad.
My daughter needs help - Shirley Keck - Dec 9th 2010
My daughter was molested by her cousin at 3, CPS then put him in my home against my wishes a year later and he molested her again. Ayear and a half later I got very ill I am a single mother my friend gave my children to CPS where they were abused. By 3rd grad she was said to have ADHD a few years later I became ill with blood clots and lost them again to CPS. This time she was in six placements, five abusive because of behavior problems and now changed to PTSD. Due to behavior at school CPS forced me to sign her over for residential care or loose both children. She has been there over 2 years the last 6 or 8 months worse.AWOL's up to 43 hours,threats to kill herself,destruction,one minute she likes you the next hates you doesn't know why,bored,eating binges,impulse issuse's,cutting,self hatred,anger.I believe she has BPD and needs med change and different therapy can't get anyone to listen to me.Can you help?I don't want my baby to die !
Living happily with BPD - - Nov 10th 2010
I was diagnosed with BDP 4 years ago. My Dr prescribed Cyprilex 20mg 2 times a day and this did a world of difference, I am now down to 5 mg once or twice a day depending on my day. Most times I forget my meds and am okay but I know when I have a bad time and need to take it again. This happens less and less now that I am 40 yrs old. They say the symptoms begin to lessen with age and I believe this to be true. I also went to dialectic behavioral therapy and talk to a therapist who is specifically trained in the field of BPD. Having a strong network of friends and family who accept you for who you are and understand the disorder helps me too, as they learn to understand what I have and learn more about it they can help me and make me strong on those bad days. I now have a successful small business, and have a wonderful job I love and a great family. There is hope out there. There are some great books on BPD like Borderline personality disorder: How to live with this condition it has an apple and a ruler on the front is a wonderful book. The other one was How to live with someone you love with BPD helped my partner to understand my condition a great deal. Hope this helps a bit
dual disorders - - Oct 22nd 2010
I think that it is important to note that personality disorders can and often do co-exist with other mental illnesses...
son with cognitive delays now with bpd - linda - Oct 9th 2010
son has cognitive delays, is 26 and this year just flipped, thought he was bipolar but after reading this article realize he has bpd. the drs had him on zyprexa then he gained forty lbs, but seemed tired and not there..then they took him off and he did fine for four months then flared up again..back on zyprexa now they changed it to a new drug that has horrible reviews.geodon 20mg...so we decided not to give him the drug....serious withdrawls...so says patients....but we have decided to see another dr. and get second opinion based on this article...he needs therapy...but he also gets very depressed....but he has cognitive delays so he isnt the average patient....
help for women with bipolar - - Sep 16th 2010
there is highly successful retreat center in tennessee for women with bipolar disorder. It saved my daughter's life but is extremely expensive. It is called Brookhaven Retreat Center. Take a second mortgage on your home if you have to send her there.
MI HIJO IS BORDELINE - GLORIA MEDINA - Sep 2nd 2010
Hoy mi hijo tiene 30 anos y desde los 4 anos se le detecto, el recibio terapias ahora vivimos en USA y ayer me dieron los resultados de las evaluaciones que le hicieran en este pais y me recomendaron que reciba terapias para aprender a sociabilizar, lamentablemente el idioma le impide sociabilizar y en donde tambien resulto que le falta bastante apoyo es en cuanto a las matematicas osea me recomendaron que pida un guardianship por que podrian haber personas que podrian aprovecharse de su dinero.
Today my son is 30 and from 4 years is detected, the received therapies are now living in USA and yesterday told the results of the assessments made in this country you and I recommended that he receive therapy to learn to socialize, unfortunately language prevents you from socializing and where it also appears that support is quite lacking in terms of bone mathematics recommended me to request that a guardianship could be people who could benefit from your money.
told i have bpd today - missy t - Aug 27th 2010
so for 13 years they have been telling me i am bi poler and way over druging me but i always hated what the meds did to me. i have many sucide attemps i was a cutter. flip off the handle mad at the drop of a dime. and i am always meanest to the people i love but i soo never want them to leave my life. bleh the list could go on. but now instead of bi poler i am bpd? im so lost and really dont know what to do with this new info.
bpd - - Aug 3rd 2010
I know my daughter had BPD. For the 3rd time since she turned 18, I am no longer in her life through actions on her own part. She had late onset of puberty, (age 17), and when she turned 18 her personality, morals, everything seemed to take a complete turn and now she is who she is. Of course I am concerned about what causes BPD. I was a very nuturing stay at home soccer mom. Meals had all the food groups, family sat down to dinner, the whole beaver cleaver setup. However, I did divorce the biological father and he was a negative role model for a while until he got into AA. My daughter needs help and I dont know what to do. I cannot allow her to cause me any more emotional pain and stress through her actions but she has 4 children by 3 different fathers who I am not allowed to see. Now I hear from close sources that she is having an affair with a married man that happens to be her co-habitating partners best friend. The reason why he agreed? Because during sex, my daughter likes to be cut and hurt :( This is the first I have heard of this, altho my she did confess to me once that she used to cut herself. No one can give her enough attention ever and she is impossible to satisfy for more than a day at a time. Any suggestions how I might get help for her?
Response to Rupert - - Jul 27th 2010
Rupert I doubt you have a personality disorder..it sounds like you have more of drinking problem...Look up the AA sites and take a brief questionnare...one of the factors is that your personality changes when you drink...If you had a personality disorder you would act like that alcohol or no alcohol...Hope this helps.
personailty disorder - rupert - Jul 24th 2010
i believe i have a pd reason being when i consume alcohol i want to fight everyone i get aggressive my anger is very high.i disrespect anyone thats near me or who i am talking to at that time,then the next hour im fine apologizing to them.am i going crazy or what? or is it just past reflections of my past and therefor anger that i have to give out is being released from previous problems in my life,i can control this sometimes but then again sometimes its uncontrollable,do i need help?
stimulants - - Jul 22nd 2010
Hi, Linda. Methylphenidate or dextroamphetamine are known to help, Generally only a psychiatrist can subcribe them, a stimulant will help alot
tratamiento de TLP??? - lucy - Jul 7th 2010
a donde podriamos acudir en colombia, para el tratamiento de TLP??? agradecemos la orientacion,
BPD - LINDA - Jun 17th 2010
Hi there, i believe my Daughter has BPD but to make things worse she also has a low IQ of 69.
She is 34 yrs old and lives with her grandparents in Melbourne.
Any help out there for her ??????