My story is a strange one..... I got a mobile friendship with a lady a year ago. She told me that she was married 4 years ago but her husband died 2 years ago of some disease. She explained to me that she was exploited by her in-laws. She has a 2 year old son, too.
We started talking and our relationship grew day by day. We even met at coffee shops a few times. Seeing her condition and state of mind, I started caring about her. She was also attracted to me and she also cared about me.
I wanted to propose to her because I really started loving her a lot. But, before I proposed, she proposed to me. I was on 7th heaven. I always thought of her and that meant she was on my mind all the time. My liking was really strong for her and I think it is same now. We even had physical relations many times.
One day, I got shocking news from one of her friends who to me that her husband is alive, works in an Arab country, and that she was just passing her time with me.
I was just shocked.....! I cried for three long days without eating and sleeping. I really loved her and I think I still do. My love has not lessened for her.
When I asked her about the truth she started weeping and said that, yes, at the start of our relationship she was just passing her time but now she loves me a lot and can't leave me. She explained that her husband was very rude to her. She said that, at first, she needed someone to make friendship with, but now she has really started loving me. She asked me to forgive her and not to break up the relationship.
I want to leave her but I can't. We still talk daily and I just can't stop talking to her.
I think you are now a bit familiar about my state of mind. I really want to die because I know I can never, ever tell her to end the relationship. If that happens I will cry daily as I'm doing now.
So I Just Want To Die..... Please Help Me Out Of This Mess..... Please Please Please.....
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