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Violent Brother

The thing about this is, my brother never had a violent past. He was kind of a quiet guy. Then, about 5 years ago, he started to get a bit wild with friends and smoked marijuana very heavily. This is strange because I know that weed doesn't make one aggressive or violent. But for 5 years now, my brother is 22, he has done nothing but sit in the house, day and night, watching television, eating and sleeping. He doesn't even talk to anyone except when he's asking for something.

About a year ago, out of the blue in the middle of the night, my brother went wild, screaming about us treating him like he's crazy, smashing our television, and trying to break the glass of my mum's car. We called the police and he was put in a centre that would help him. This did nothing. He returned home and still sat in front of the TV, spoke to no one and did nothing with his life.

Throughout the time, he randomly swears and curses at people when they try to talk to him. Tonight, he threw another random fit and smashed the television remote control this time. For the first time he started a fight with me, head butting me.

I really don't know why he's like this or what to do. We do think he's still smoking marijuana in secret, but we can't prove it. I would appreciate any help you can give me.



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Reader Comments

attachment - Julie Beswick - Jul 2nd 2008

I am looking for information on attachment difficulties and the process to remedy any difficulties that may be presened in an infant up to 14 months.   If a child is showing the actions listed below, I would like to know what kind of attachmnt the child is showing.

1. When in a room of familiar people, will only respond to care-giver when distressed or tired. 

2. Looking for re-assurance from caregiver when hurt.  

3. Responding with smiles and laughter to caregiver, when


4. Showing no distress when stranger in the room and care-giver leaves the room briefly. 

5. Content to play independantly when stangers in the room when caregiver is present.

6. Eye contact when interacting.

7. Responding to caregivers name and scanning for them. 

8. Initiallly crying when caregiver leaves the room in a strange  place.

9. Wriggling and smiling with glee on care-givers return to strange place. 

10. Shouting and screaming with delight showing physical affection to another sibling.

11. Following sibling shouting their name, giggling and interactin. 


returning attachment - miriam - May 21st 2007
Attachment can be stregthened by teaching the parents to communicate directly and steadily to the child and by recreating the desire of the child to communicate. This is what I do, dyadic work.     The desire for closeness always seems to be there. One has to work at it.  I am publishing a small book on my work with traumatized children and the way to strenghthen their attachment to the caregivers and the community in times of crisis